Why Do You Hate Me So?

By Ruth Sybil May

 

Why do you hate me so?

With your grimaced face

and body tight
You swivel to meet my gaze

With horror painted on your face

Mouth gaping as if inviting flies to rest

Eyes assaulting my perpetually politicized body

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You scrutinize my appearance and recoil in disgust

I brace myself to be rendered publicly humiliated yet again

I await your scathing critiques as if I am on trial

A hush falls over the passerby jury in conflicted anticipation

This scenario has become all too familiar

 

My whole body tenses

Feeling like a display of dismay

You despise my effeminacy, a transmisogynist at heart

But what really set you off?

 

Was it my well-kept head of soft, light-brown curls cascading past my broad shoulders?

Or the radiant glow of my meticulously moisturized skin?

Perhaps it was the floral print button-down my own father refused to purchase for me years ago?

Was it my queer femme essence, exuded through every movement, gesture, and breath?

 

He shouts “Are you in a rock band?”

As if to say the only legitimate reason for having hair as long as mine must be attached to some over-masculinized notion of a rock figure

I respond timidly “No.”

Unsatisfied, he spurts “Then why is your hair like that? Are you a boy or a girl?”

It is the latter part of this sentence that has haunted me endlessly

Strangers and peers not knowing how to react to my androgynous spirit taunting me through every stage of my life

I turn away in hopes that my disengagement will repel him

He walks off, still garbling disapprovingly

 

I’m left heavy hearted and visibly vulnerable

There is no proper consolation for this form of everyday trauma

I call upon the collective, intangible strength of trans and gender nonconforming people everywhere to propel me forward

Our shared experiences of dehumanization, resiliency, and daily resistance bind us together

I collect myself and move onward, knowing full well that this will not be my last encounter with a hostile stranger

Because no matter how kind, beautiful, intelligent, or loving I may be, you will still hate me so

Ruth is a third year undergraduate student at St. Cloud state, studying Women’s Studies and Human Relations.  Andy is a transgender non-binary femme person from a working class background with a passion for social justice, fashion, and their dearest cat.

 

 

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One thought on “Why Do You Hate Me So?

  1. womencntrga1 says:

    Wow! Thank you first for being so transparent. I love how you captured the spirit of a transgender non conformist. I love the imagery in which you explain your femininity and how you perform that in everyday life. I think its funny how you capture the confusion of others interpretation of you femininity. But also that they cant help but see the female spirit in you! beautifully written.

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