Content Warning: rape, domestic violence, violence against queer people, sexual assault, emotional abuse
(This is Part 1 of a 2-part series of The Transgender Experience)
There are an estimated 1.4 million transgender Americans in the United States. Approximately one-fifth of them have experienced homelessness. This doesn’t end here, however. When they try to access homeless shelters, more than half will experience harassment from the staff and/or residents. Twenty nine percent will be outright denied access and 22% will experience sexual assault from the staff and/or residents. (For the whole summary, click here).
This is the transgender experience.
My name is Archie Alexandre and I use he/him and they/them pronouns. I am a white, queer, neurodivergent, fat, transgender/gender nonconforming* man who is currently on Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). Yes I plan on having “the surgeries” and no, I won’t tell you my “real name” because Archie IS my real name. I’m 21 years old going to 22 on October 12th, 2017. I am polyamorous and currently have a queerplatonic partner and one romantic/sexual partner. My life is centered around central Minnesota in the United States. I’ve traveled to other states and have traveled outside of the United States once to South Africa.
This is my introduction. This is my Experience.
When I reference “transgender” people, I am also referring to non-binary and gender nonconforming folx. Transgender is considered an umbrella term for all of those kinds of identities. The prefix “trans-” meaning “the other side.”
Now I could go on and on about transgender statistics, but I cannot give you “The Full Transgender Experience™” alone. I would have to include every single transgender person on the planet to do that. What I’m doing here is providing you the lens of one perspective on being transgender. This series will become an intersectional piece on my other identities as one identity is almost always intertwined with another identity.
As a transgender man that works in centering the marginalized voices and bodies, my range of activism expands from grassroots organizing to Black Lives Matter and the abolishment of prisons as well as the disestablishment of the police force. I delve into queer politics and activism more often, however, as it is my main focus for both my educational and personal life. The most notable activism would be around Trans and Queer Liberation.
Being a transgender person has brought about many new challenges in my life. I have never officially come out to my whole family, but I have experienced some rejection from my family on different levels on my journey of discovering my queerness. Unfortunately, coming out to family isn’t as easy as people think it is. Forty-three percent of people who come out to their families will maintain most familial bonds while the other 57% will have experienced very intense rejection from their families.
There is a better chance of you guessing which side a flipped coin will land on.
For my family, coming out isn’t dissimilar to a 10-Step Recovery Process for both my family and I. Most of my family knows and actively ignores my queer identity while there are a few that truly support me. I am out to virtually all of my friends and my co-workers.
I’ve known I was a transgender male for over two years now. I’ve had internal gender issues since I was a child. The language of “transgender” didn’t exist for me until I was in high school where I had met my first transgender person. However, even that is probably a lie. I’ve probably met MANY transgender folx in the time I have existed.
Learning about this identity that I couldn’t put a word to was and is the most super important for me. I admire language in all forms and putting words to my thoughts and feelings. I use language to inform myself and others–like I am now: informing you, the reader, is why I admire language. We can exchange thoughts and feelings to each other with at least a minimal understanding.
Now that we have established some facts of myself, it is time to end here. Please look forward to part two where I describe my feminist philosophies and how my intersecting identities have helped me navigate throughout my world.
Please take this 2-part series as one scope of queer identity out of many. My lived experiences differ a lot from others and are similar to a lot of others, but this should never be used to describe every trans person’s experience.
*DISCLAIMER: This link to the definition of gender non-conforming, while offering an excellent explanation, features Laci Green, who recently has made some problematic content about gender identity. This link is meant for an explanation of the term “gender non-conforming.,” but is not meant to condone Green’s recent problematic statements.
Hello! My name’s Archie Andersen, and I use he/him and they/them pronouns. I identify as a neurodivergent, AFAB, Fat, Queer, Nonbinary Transgender man activist. My main studies are in Queer Theory and Issues and the Prison Industrial Complex, but I also work to end all forms of oppression. I am in my 4th year at St. Cloud State University majoring in Gender and Women’s Studies and minoring in Ethnic Studies. My favorite color is pastel blue, and I really enjoy watching YouTube videos in my spare time.